SIX STEPS TO GROOVING IN MY HOOP AGAIN
(And hopefully staying groovy)
Spring is here HOORAY! I’m such a summer gal 🙂 Winter is a time for rest and rejuvenation so if you took a break from hooping don’t feel bad. In fact even if it’s not winter but you’ve taken a break from hooping for whatever reason IT’S OK. Really!
I have not met a single hooper, not The Fiery Pixies and not Emma Kenna and not us, who hasn’t experienced a lull in their hoop journey. I find I am most inspired and more creative after a period of no hooping. It feels kuk, I know, but when you come out of a hoop hibernation, feel grateful not guilty for the break and say, ‘I’ve had an amazing rest and now I’m ready to get my hoop groove back!‘.
Did you say it? NO? Go back and say it out loud.
Bringing Basil-Alan into this world was a beautiful experience but it was no easy feat. I was elated and exhausted, in love and emotional, strong but injured. For 3 weeks postpartum I was unable to walk without assistance, sitting was excruciating and I could only lie down on one side all from an injured coccyx. My dreams of being a super mom and jumping straight back into the hoop were shattered. Little bubs did not have an easy start and again my dreams and expectations of being back teaching hoop at 6 weeks were blown away. 3 months post birth and I’m still not teaching but I am rediscovering my hoop groove. My inability to throw myself back into life has made me realise how much I love being in my hoop purely for my self.
During the past three months I’ve had many deep and meaningful conversations with The Fiery Pixies. They had just released their official ‘Moonlight‘ video and my heart swelled with pride and joy. They had spent months working on this piece and their passion and dedication to this art form was paying off. With the pride and joy came a feeling of something missing in my life. I realised in that moment that somewhere along this journey I had forgotten to have fun. It is so easy to lose focus on the important things in life when we let the pressures take over. I let go of my expectation to teach asap and I let go of my fear of “falling behind” in my hooping. I still desperately want to get back in my hoop more, but my motivation is different. It’s for my Self.
Naturally when you can’t hoop you watch tons of YouTube and Instagram videos and two of my favourite YouTube vids have been Morgan Jenkins‘ Despondance and Lila Chupa-Hoops Rock n Roll Hoop Show. I’ve always wanted to use the hoop to tell a story and I think Morgan Jenkins Despondance has done this so beautifully and has finally encapsulated the emotional aspect that many of us experience in the hoop and the story is so heart full. While I don’t do much performing any more Lila Chupa-Hoops is an incredibly talented performer and I love how much fun she has in her acts. Both these performances reminded me how much I love being in my hoop to express and to play.
The unexpected postpartum space I found myself in has led to many conversations and shared truths. Basil and I were so concerned with STUFF that we weren’t playing any more, not just playing with hoops, but being playful in the general sense. We were so serious about being new parents, I looked at my self in the mirror and I remember thinking ‘Wow, I look old!’ and yet I felt less wise than I had 5 years ago. I was reminded about the importance of play, ‘We don’t stop playing because we grow old. We grow old because we stop playing.’ So profound. I made a promise to my son right then to never stop playing because I want to be the best mom I can be and how can I do that if I grow old when I’m young?
Joseph Chilten Pearce says ‘Play is the only way the highest intelligence of humankind can unfold‘. I know that the more I play the more I feel I understand this crazy world and the more I can thrive. Who doesn’t want to thrive?
Make a promise to yourself and your loved ones to play more! Find new and exciting ways to bring playfulness into your life and watch yourself bloom.
Now pick up your hoop put your favourite song on and go jam it out.
Remember these six tips to staying groovy in your hoop.
- Feel grateful not guilty
- Hoop for yourself
- Do it for fun
- Let go of expectation
- Let go of fear
- Never stop playing